I am a lifelong bookworm. Since childhood, books were my form of escape and also my form of enlightenment. I would often read late into the night, long after my parents thought I was asleep, devouring page after page of all my favorite books.
So, in honor of my love of reading, I wanted to share you with my top 5 favorite relationship books. These books aren’t only fun reads, they will deeply change the way you look at yourself and the way you approach your intimate relationships.
- “Conscious Loving” by Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks. Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment will challenge everything you think you know about love and intimacy. When I first read this book almost 20 years ago, it opened my eyes to the potential locked inside our romantic relationships and how we can become more loving, open-hearted people, inside and outside the bedroom. Best of all, Katie and Gay recently joined me for a special interview on my podcast The Language of Love. You can check it out next Wednesday on Spotify, Apple, Amazon, or Google.
- “Calling In the One” by Katherine Woodward Thomas. Calling In ‘The One’: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life is a book I have recommended more times than I count! I adore Katherine’s approach to finding love, and even if you’re already in a relationship, this is still a must-read. It teaches you how your energy and beliefs can either attract people and experiences into your world, and it can help you break out of unhealthy patterns that are keeping you from accessing the love you so desire and deserve.
- “The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate” by Gary Chapman. The Five Love Languages is a cult classic for a reason. Chapman was one of the first marriage researchers who realized that loving our partners isn’t enough: We need to love our partners in a way that lands for them. Everyone feels love differently, and if we aren’t fluent in our partner’s love language, then our love for them may feel minor or even non-existent. With this book, people can learn their own unique love language and that of their partners, giving us a way to love each other in the most powerful and meaningful ways.
- “Quantum Love” by Dr. Laura Berman. Yes, one of my favorite relationship books is one I wrote myself. Quantum Love was a true labor of love, the first book in which I revealed my intimate life and my most difficult struggles. I shared how my mom’s death and my subsequent breast cancer diagnosis led me down a path of exploration and research into the quantum physics field, and then I help readers discover how they can use this powerful wisdom to start creating the life and romance they desire. Passion, potential, and power are all at our fingertips. We are truly creating reality each moment we are on this earth, but many of us are blind to this quantum truth and are unable to access our true purpose here. I know that Quantum Love has helped many people deeply change their lives and rewrite their stories, and that alone makes this one of my favorite books!
- “Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help you Find—and Keep—Love” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. I love Attached because attachment styles (which we form as babies and onward throughout our childhoods) determine so much about the way we build and maintain relationships. Yet most people don’t even know what attachment styles are, let alone what this means for their marriage or their dating habits. This book will help you learn your attachment style and identify attachment styles in your romantic partners.
Now, you tell me! What are your favorite relationship books? Share me with on my socials (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or TikTok). I’m always looking for my next new ‘unputdownable’ read!