After more than 30 years as a sex therapist, I’ve heard men share things about their sex lives they’ve never told anyone. Sometimes not even their partners.

And I think a lot of women would be surprised by what they have to say.

We tend to assume men are always thinking about sex, always ready for it, and pretty straightforward about what they want. But there’s a lot more vulnerability around male sexuality than most people realize.

Many men feel enormous pressure to perform, to initiate, and to satisfy their partners. When their desire changes or their bodies don’t cooperate, it can shake their confidence and even their sense of masculinity. And while plenty of men long to feel desired themselves, they often have no idea how to ask for it.

So they stay quiet. And their partners are left wondering what’s wrong, sometimes assuming it’s about them.

In this Language of Love Bite, I’m sharing what men have told me over three decades about their sexual fears, insecurities, and desires. And more importantly, how couples can start having the conversations that so often get avoided.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What men wish women understood about their sexuality

• Why performance pressure can create so much shame and anxiety

• Why men need to feel desired, too

• How sexual struggles can be mistaken for rejection

• How to create enough emotional safety to talk honestly about sex

I’d love to hear from you! Is there something you’ve been afraid to tell your partner about sex, or something you’ve always wanted to ask?

Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voicemail at languageoflovepod.com. Your question could be featured in a future episode.

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