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Core Desired Feelings

In my relationship I want to feel…

Connected

Joyful 

Turned On

Playful 

Supported

In alignment

Comforted

Encouraged 

Appreciated

Free 

Calm 

Cherished

Honest

Excited

Accepted

Delighted

Seen & Heard

Passionate 

Trusted

Spontaneous 

How to Manifest Your Core Desired Feelings

In a recent blog, I discussed core desired feelings. I asked you to comprise a list of core desired feelings that you would like to manifest in your relationship.

Now, let’s get down into the nitty-gritty of how all of this works, particularly on a quantum level, and how you can use this science to improve your love life from the inside out.

First, you have to understand that nothing is more powerful in this world than the power of thought. Nothing!  Our thoughts and feelings are vibrational energy waves—the same energy waves that exist in everything around us.  Every thought you have, have ever had, or will ever have creates a vibration that goes out into the quantum field, extending forever.  These vibrations attract other vibrations, and as this energy piles up, it becomes mass—which in turn creates reality as we know it. 

In other words, your thoughts are literally creating your reality. The universe does not pre-exist waiting for you to observe it and experience it. Just the opposite. You are the only one creating the universe that you observe and experience. And it all begins and ends in your mind. Your thoughts are your Creator. Your energy is your force.

This is why feelings, thoughts and the intentions that go with them (consciously or unconsciously) are powerful enough to impact the world around us, and the people within it. Our expectations and our beliefs can literally change how we grow and develop and alter the people we become, not just psychologically but energetically as well.

Intention has led you to where you are today, whether it is conscious or unconscious. And when you don’t channel your intention and guide it in the direction you want to go, you are likely going to wind up somewhere you never intended to be. In fact, many of us are actually working against ourselves. We spend all of our time and energy thinking about what we DON’T want (to be hurt, to be passed over, to be rejected) that we end up sending out vibrations that attract—and create—those very experiences.

Okay, here’s the good news: Since so many of us are hard at work creating what we don’t want, couldn’t the same logic be applied for the opposite result? Couldn’t we instead use our energy and intentions to create what we do want? Yes. YES. That is the magic of Quantum Physics!

So how do you begin this amazing journey? How do you from being a victim of your own self-created reality and start becoming the hero of your own self-created reality?

Like I said, it all begins with intention. Look at that list of core desired feelings you wrote down. As an example, I will use the feeling “Playful.” Let’s say one of your core desired goals is to have a more playful relationship with your spouse, to have more spontaneous and silly connection with him rather than stressful conversations about bills and errands. How would you start to manifest such a goal?

You need to get into the “feeling” state of that emotion. How would it feel to have a more playful relationship with your spouse? When was there a time when you felt a playful bond with him? Maybe you could hearken back to when you first started dating and he took you to the zoo and you had your faces painted. Maybe you would remember the snowball fight you had during your first holiday season together. Then, you would delve deep into that memory. How did you FEEL when those things were happening? Light, bubbly, warm, loved, etc.? How did your body feel? Was your belly buzzing with butterflies? Were your legs tingling?

I need you to do the same with whatever goal you have chosen to work on. I need to you remember a time when you felt that way. How it felt in your mind, body, and soul. Hold onto that feeling. Cherish it. Protect it. It’s going to lead you where you need to go.

Now, the next step. Here is the tricky part. I need you to imagine that this feeling is already happening for you in your relationship. For example, for the core feeling—playful—I would need to imagine that my relationship is already playful. Instead of thinking of all the ways my relationship isn’t playful—we work too much, the kids are misbehaving, the house is dirty, etc.—I must accept and BELIEVE that my relationship is already playful.

To that end, I must look for evidence of that every day. Okay, so the kids are misbehaving—but maybe they are just being mischievous and high-energy, just like my husband and I are! Maybe the house is dirty because we are simply having too much fun to clean up right now. And so on and so forth. You have to become a detective that looks for clues of what you DO want, rather than what you DON’T want.

It’s an incredibly simple exercise but at the same time terrifically complicated, because it is probably the opposite of how your brain has been trained to think. Most of us are used to zeroing in on what we don’t want and focusing on the negative. But when you do that, all you are doing is creating more of the same.

So: Stop talking about what you don’t want. Stop noticing what you don’t want. Instead, turn that energy into another direction. Notice what you do want. Talk about what you want. Realize that you already have it. Make more of it. Become master of your own universe. Then—thank yourself.