Sex and Pregnancy: Making Love With a Baby on Board
People often think that pregnancy signals the end of your sex life for nine months. However, the truth is that sex during pregnancy can be quite pleasurable. In fact, many women experience a boost in their libido during pregnancy, particularly during the second trimester. During the first trimester, you are often dealing with morning sickness, fatigue, and other symptoms that make sex (among other things) difficult.
However, as you move into the second trimester and these symptoms dissipate, you will find that your libido returns. Shifting hormones (such as progesterone and estrogen) will heighten your sensitivity in pleasure spots like your genitals and your breasts, and you will experience greater lubrication in the vagina as well. And, as you grow into your new curves, you might enjoy a boost of self-esteem, as many women feel more feminine and alive than ever before.
Of course, just because you are in the mood for sex doesn’t necessarily mean that your sex life won’t change somewhat. You will have to find new positions that make sex comfortable, and your growing belly means that some of your favorite positions might not be possible any more.
Luckily, there are several positions which will give you pleasure and keep your baby safe at the same time. Man-on-top is still possible, but make sure he doesn’t place any weight on your stomach. Instead, have him kneel while you lay before him. Put your legs straight up in the air and rest them on his torso as he penetrates (no, penetration won’t ‘poke’ the baby!).
You might find that woman-on-top is most pleasurable and comfortable for you, whether you kneel facing him or facing his feet. Seated positions, such as when he sits on a chair and you straddle him, are also a good idea. Side by side positions are also a good idea, especially if you lie facing the same way and he penetrates you from behind. (Facing each other can be more difficult as your belly might get in the way).
One of the benefits of sex during pregnancy is that you don’t have to grapple with contraception concerns, however, there are a few things to remember. First of all, it’s important that your partner doesn’t blow air into the vaginal cavity while he is performing oral sex, as this can potentially cause an embolism to occur within the womb. It’s also important to make sure that you are not performing any positions which will put any weight on your belly.
A good rule of thumb is that if you are comfortable, your baby likely is as well, but it’s a good idea to talk to your doctor about her safe sex tips for you and your baby. It’s also important to make sure that you have the green light to engage in sexual activity.
Women who have high-risk pregnancies or who are prone to premature delivery are sometimes encouraged to not engage in sexual activity, as sex can hasten labor. However, barring any medical concerns, sex during pregnancy can be a wonderful way to stay connected to your partner during this special time in your life.